We feel good about ourselves if we have strong self-esteem. And if we’re confident, we’re more likely to believe we have skills. However, our confidence might be shaken at times, and we may not like ourselves that much.
Let me give an example, whether we are speaking in front of an audience, or merely conversing with others, we are under a great deal of pressure. Confident people can typically confront these circumstances without blinking, while the rest of us will most likely melt away and will try to flee the scene.
If you’re one of the millions of individuals who want to quit squirming in front of others, attempting to get out of awkward situations, and feeling miserable, here are a few tips to get you started.
Believe in Yourself
One of the reasons people are not confident in themselves is the fact that they are already convinced that they will fail even before anything happens. Never underestimate the power of the mind. If you believe you will fail, you indeed will! A better exercise would be to believe that you can succeed. Set your mind towards succeeding and you probably will!
Take Criticisms, whether Good or Bad
Most people are bad at taking criticisms. Instead of taking the criticisms personally, use every comment and suggestion to make yourself better. However, you will also have to look out for some criticisms that were never meant to benefit you. Ignore them and move on.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Whether you compare how you look to your friends, or you compare your salary to your friend’s income, comparisons aren’t healthy.
Those who compared themselves to others feel envious. And the more jealousy people feel, the worse their self-esteem became. Remind yourself that making comparisons isn’t useful when you see yourself doing so. Life isn’t a competition, and everyone is running their own race.
Remain Calm at All Costs
Panicking never benefited anybody. If you are suddenly in a situation where you are unsure of what to do or what will happen, try to keep your composure.
Surround yourself with people who are positive.
Pay attention to how you’re made to feel by your buddies. Do your buddies encourage you or put you down? Do they always pass judgment on you or do they accept you for who you are?
People you spend time with have a greater impact on your ideas and attitudes about yourself than you may realize. If you feel bad about yourself after hanging out with a particular person, it may be time to say goodbye.
Face Your Fears
Stop putting things off (like asking someone on a date or applying for a promotion) until you feel more confident. The best way to build your confidence is by facing your fears head-on.
Face some of your worries that originate from a lack of self-confidence in practice. If you’re scared you’ll disgrace yourself or make a mistake, go ahead and attempt it anyhow. Tell yourself that this is only a test and see what happens.
Improving your self-esteem can have a variety of benefits in your life. It may strengthen your relationships and make you more robust to stress, in addition to making you feel better about yourself and your skills.